{in memoriam} Goodbye, finally, to my childhood

A friend of mine from high school died yesterday. I heard last night, via the Facebook IM tree, and it was like the breath just flew out of me.

Kirsten fought off leukemia as a child, but liver cancer would end her. And with her death, so ended my foolish belief that we were eternal.

In my mind, she is forever a junior and I’m a sophomore. We traveled in the same group of friends, who partied on the weekends with music and Monty Python, who dated each other shamelessly and intertwined our lives and dramas for three years of my life.

I always knew she was brave, because you can’t be a kid dealing with cancer and not be brave. I also knew her to be kind, smart, funny, and sweet. I have distant, fading Polaroids in my mind of moments from parties at her house. These were the truly formative moments of my life, when my heart was built to be broken.

She wasn’t the first person I know from high school to have died; that honor goes to Dylan – one year behind me – who died while still in high school. Foolish escapades on a jet ski ended him, and his may have been the first wake I attended. But it’s K’s death that reminds me that even my band of friends, who I see really only online these days, is not forever.

We live in different cities and, in some cases, on different coasts. Many stayed in the DC area, and she was one of several of us to migrate to New England. I probably last saw K when she graduated; her being in Maine made her no closer to me than anything else. I rarely head that far north.

But she was never fully out of my thoughts, and hearing of her death from liver cancer gave me sad pause, adding another name to the “In Memory Of” list I wear as I walk my marathon for The Jimmy Fund/Dana-Farber Cancer Institute.

My childhood is gone, more so than any other single event, because now I’m reminded of the fragility of it all. I may not see all of these people online, or talk to them on a daily basis, but my love for my friends of that time will outlast us all.

RIP K. I miss you and I love you.

Spicy Scallop Chirashi Bowl

Spicy Scallop Chirashi Bowl

Simple and SO tasty!

 

For those unfamiliar with the concept, chirashi is basically “stuff on sushi rice”, and it’s a fantastic way to take your sushi out of the roll and into the bowl. For people who don’t like seaweed, it’s a great way to make this kind of combination more accessible. This particular recipe is also incredibly easy to make, assuming your sushi rice doesn’t have some kind of really interesting science-experiment-level reaction with your rice cooker, as mine did, forcing a delay while you make MORE rice on the stove. Yeah, some days are like that. At least it all turned out tasty.

As a note, I’ll point out that you don’t have to use the specific items that I recommend; there are other ways around. It’s easy enough to substitute with items that better fit your particular bend or that are easier for you to find (for example, swap the scallops for firm tofu to make it vegetarian). To that end, I’ve broken things up a little, and I’m offering up a couple of solutions to the matter at hand.

Lastly, and very importantly, if using items out of a box or a bag, such as sushi rice, please do follow whatever directions exist on the packaging so that you’re cooking the items properly. That may mean adjusting the timing of the different pieces, but a little preparation can make everything ready right at the same time. Substituting regular long-grain white rice for the short-grain sushi rice may not work as well when it comes to the rice wine vinegar/sugar mixture and it won’t have the stickiness of its short-grain cousin, so your mileage may vary depending upon where/how you employ alternate options. Even so, if you taste the combinations as you put them together, you can adjust on the fly and truly make this dish something unique for you.

 

Prep Time: 15 minutes, some of which is concurrent with the rice cooking

Cooking Time: 30-75 minutes, depending upon rice cooking method

Serves: 2

 

Ingredients

1 cup sushi rice, uncooked

2 cups water

1/4 cup rice wine vinegar

2 Tb white sugar

3/4 – 1lb fresh sea scallops

1/4-1/2 cup sherry or white cooking wine

2 Tb olive oil

4 Tb Japanese mayonnaise or (any brand) full-fat mayonnaise

2 tsp Sriracha OR (2 tsp Tabasco sauce + 1 tsp garlic powder)

1 oz peeled & cut mango

1 avocado

 

Make it Happen

Rice:

1. Prepare according to instructions on the package, noting that rice cooker cooking time may be longer than if you cook it on the stove. Best to get the rice going FIRST, since that will be the longest of the items that needs to be made.

2. When the rice is done cooking, measure out the rice wine vinegar into a glass (or other form of microwave-safe) measuring cup; add the sugar and stir to combine. Heat in the microwave on high for 1 minute.

3. Stir the heated mixture well, until the sugar dissolves, then sprinkle/gently pour it on the rice as you stir to coat the rice with the mixture. [Note that typically, when making sushi, you want to cool the rice somewhat before this particular step. For chirashi, some of the pressure is off, since stickiness and consistency are fine in a bowl; if you are making the rice for sushi in rolled form, definitely fan the rice before and while you do this step.]

 

Scallops and Mayo:

1. When the rice has approximately 20-25 minutes left to cook, add the olive oil to a non-stick pan and heat on medium-high.

2. Wash the scallops and remove the foot from each scallop; then chop into bite-sized pieces. Add the scallops to the pan and stir to coat. Let the scallops cook for about 3-4 minutes before turning to cook the other side, then add the sherry or cooking wine and move on to the spicy mayo.

3. Spicy mayo can be done with the Japanese or full-fat mayo and EITHER Sriracha (spicy option #1) OR a combination of Tabasco sauce and garlic powder (spicy option #2). In either event, put the mayo into a small glass or other non-reactive bowl and then add the your chosen spicy option.

Since “spicy” is all in the tastebuds of the beholder, the quantities I list above are just illustrative; adjust as needed to meet your needs.

If the mayo is TOO spicy, add more mayo. If the mayo isn’t spicy enough, add more of your spicy option, noting that if you’re doing the Tabasco/garlic powder combination, you may need to adjust both. Set aside when done.

4. Keep stirring the scallops until they’re fully cooked; typically they’re done by the time the wine has finished cooking off, which can be about 10-15 minutes total cook time from when the scallops went into the pan.

5. Chop the mango and avocado into bites approximately the same size as the scallops.

6. When the scallops and rice are done, place a layer of rice in the bottom of a bowl, then add half the scallops to the center, in a stripe, followed by stripes on either side with half each of the chopped mango and avocado. Drizzle the spicy mayo on top.

You may find that you want to add some soy sauce, as well, if you’re used to having that on rice, so it may be worthwhile to keep a bottle of Kikkoman or Tamari handy. If you decide to do that, I would recommend waiting until after you’ve put the bowl together and then add soy sauce to taste.

Our favorite Thanksgiving recipes

Drunken Bourbon Chocolate Pecan Pie

“Begin with the end in mind.” YES.

I consider Thanksgiving to be one of those great “3F” holidays: Food, Friends, and/or Family. In the last few years, we’ve taken on the cooking for Thanksgiving, a luxury of cooking-from-scratch when any other given Thursday in the year is typically spent cobbling together any old meal or leftovers for a quick post-work/school meal.

These are some of the recipes that we’ll be using – or that I recommend – as a great way to fill out your table with some tasty foods to share with the ones you love. This isn’t an exhaustive list of all the options out there, and there are several items I haven’t included that will be on the table – some made by us (like mashed potatoes) and others made by family (such as squash or pumpkin pie). I just wanted to share things that I know make a really tasty table; you can supplement as you wish with the items of your choice. And, since kids are funny about food, I’ll just say that I only expect ds to eat a roll and a can of cranberry sauce. So…yeah, it’s all about knowing your audience.

 

Turkey
For those of us who are omnivorous, Thanksgiving is ALL about the turkey, and we love Cooks Illustrated’s grilled turkey recipe. There are two reasons why this is such as fantastic way to go with a turkey: 1) it produces a really moist, flavorful turkey, and 2) by using the grill, it keeps the oven free for other things!

Since the Cooks recipe is paywalled, I’m linking to the same basic recipe as posted by Seattle Foodshedhttp://seattlefoodshed.wordpress.com/2012/11/05/classic-roast-turkey-on-the-grill/

Rolls
Rather than buying rolls, I decided to make my own using a recipe from the people at Fleischmann’s. Their Sour Cream Rolls are flavorful and light, and the recipe is super-easy. These rolls disappear quickly once they get to the table, and I consider that a good problem to have.

Stuffing
I started making Stuffing a couple of years ago, and it was so tasty that (while I consistently keep blanking on taking a picture of it) I’m totally making it again. This stuffing is also totally customizable, so if you want to make it vegan or vegetarian, that’s easy as pie.

Mmm. Pie.

Dessert
A while back, FOR SCIENCE, I tried seeing whether the idea of making a Chocolate Bourbon Pecan Pie was better than the idea of a Bourbon Pecan Pie. In my estimation, the chocolate variation is better than the non-chocolate version, but that’s also because I think chocolate goes with just about everything.

 

No matter how you celebrate Thanksgiving, have fun – and, if at all possible, great food.